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Current State of Affairs Regarding
Very good article about ADHD and the current
state of affairs regarding medication. In a nutshell, the
study showed significant improvement in ADHD symptoms related to
attention, distractibility and impulsivity while taking supervised
and proper dosages of medication.
Achieving Inner Peace
Some days, I feel peaceful and happy. During these moments, I have
to admit, I feel as though I have really truly found inner peace. I
will never again, I think, become outraged, upset or disappointed.
Then the next day (or hour!) something
happens and there I am, as upset, angry, obsessive, as ever!
Has this ever happened to you?
Why does experiencing inner peace seem so elusive when it is
always available to us if we just will tap into it?
Why do we struggle with our emotions: stress, anxiety, anger, guilt,
unfulfilled yearnings, frustrations, and fear and cause ourselves so
For the past ten years, I've read, studied and adopted many
practices to live a more peaceful and happy life. This month,
I'm sharing with you ten steps that we can all follow to achieve
Ten Steps Toward Achieving Inner Peace
- Make it a priority.
There are so many days that I feel I can't keep up:
with technology, my email, responsibilities, shows I want to
watch, work. Do you feel like that? We are tempted to respond most
quickly to what is "in our face" but to enjoy inner peace we need
to change our priorities to focus more on the subtle messages we
receive from our physical senses as well as our inner awareness.
- Focus on inner peace.
What we focus on is what we get. If we focus on our
angry thoughts, we get angry. If we focus on learning the ways to
develop a sense of calm and inner peace, that is what we will
- Dump your baggage.
Have you heard the parable about it being easier for a camel to go
through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the
kingdom of heaven? The story goes like this: after the gates of
Jerusalem were closed at night there remained one small gate that
could be opened to late travelers. For security reasons it was
extremely narrow and became known as the eye of the needle. A
loaded camel could not get through it. To get his camels through
this gate, a merchant had to unload all the baggage from them. To
get into the zone of inner peace, we also have to unload our
baggage, our beloved belongings, our victim hood, our hurts, our
perpetrators, our anger. We must dump our baggage and become the
camel so we can easily enter the place inside
us is inner peace.
- Quiet your mind.
Difficult. Learn to meditate, to be calm, to quiet your mind and
listen for the still small voice. Or for silence.
- Become more aware of the earth and the nature around you.
The greatest messages in the universe are free. They are to be
found every day, in the natural world around us. Look up at the
sky in the morning. Listen and watch as the birds fly by, singing.
Notice the changing colors of the leaves and flowers. Nature is
here to soothe
and comfort us, all we need to do it become aware of its beauty
- Notice what influences you.
Awareness of something is not the same as being controlled by it.
Notice who and what has an effect on you. Are you willing to
notice these influences and then, let them go?
- Get comfortable with uncertainty and change.
Wow, this is a really big one for most of us. Do you remember the
saying that nothing is certain but death and taxes? Needing
certainty will block you from enjoying what is right now, one of
the keys to inner peace. Get used to contradictions,
uncertainties, and change. Take three deep breaths and simply
accept that you cannot know everything, and that uncertainty is
one of the few
certainties. Get comfortable with this.
- Connect with your Higher Power, by whatever name.
This does not just mean prayer. It means maintaining an awareness
of what's going on around you and carrying on a mental
conversation about it with
your Higher Power. Express your gratitude for what you have every
day - especially what we take for granted such as a traffic light
turning green at just the right moment, a beautiful sunset, or
something that turned out to be easy for you.
- Do not ignore "special messages and postcards."
"Postcards from God" is a descriptive name for the unexpected
scenes, usually found in nature, that have a profound message that
is exactly appropriate for you right now. These are special and
beautiful moments you can enjoy
every day if you look for them. Enjoy them.
- Suspend judgment.
Probably the most challenging one of all for us is to suspend
judgment. We don't even realize how many times a day we make a
judgment about a person being good or bad, positive or negative,
one we like or not based on our own perspective. Try going one day
and noticing every
judgment you make about people and things around you
and see if you can label exactly each you make a judgment and
then, suspend it.
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Eight Simple Tips for Overcoming
- Look for what is going well every day.
- Look at the bigger picture, look for the meaning and value to
you in your current situation. What is the "take away" for you,
- Move on and let it go. Greatest way to get off the
negativity track and start feeling great is to make a plan based
on what you REALLY want for yourself in your career, business, and
life. Start today moving toward something you truly want.
Begin by creating a vivid picture of your dream (dream job, dream
business, dream lifestyle, etc.) Now, what could you choose for a
few realistic goals to set for yourself that will take one step
closer to your dream? Write these down and under each one,
jot down several small "baby action steps" that you can start
doing today to start moving forward.
- Write your dream and goal down and put it where you see it
every day. Create a dream board, picture, or clip pictures or
photos that reflect what you will look like and feel like when you
have your dream. Having a visual of what you want is very
powerful. Write down (or put in your Palm Pilot or Outlook the
steps and activities you plan to take each day and week to move
forward. THIS WORKS!
- Be grateful every single day. Write down ten things you are
grateful for in your life. It is impossible to be sad or angry
while you are feeling grateful. Try it and see what I mean. A
great way to relax and fall asleep at night is to get in bed,
close your eyes, and review ONLY what you are truly grateful for
that day. NO negative thoughts allowed :-)
- Don't hang out with negative people. Instead, hang out
with people who are as happy and successful as you or or even more
- If you are "underemployed" (i.e., bored or feel misplaced in
your job,) express your desire to do more, learn more, even if it
means doing more work for the same or less money. Some
people switch into a new area or job and actually accept a lower
salary in order to spread their wings or do something they truly
love. Start today identifying your "motivated strengths and
skills" and passions and find a way to use them at work and in
your personal life.
- Relax and have some fun! If you have a hobby or favorite
pastime, make sure you do it every chance you get. If you don't
have a hobby, look around at the world and get one....take a
class, browse through the library or bookstore, do volunteer work,
etc. For most people, this will re-charge their batteries
and give them a better perspective on things.
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What is ADD
ADD Coaching can be an important part of a comprehensive program
for individuals with ADD. The coaching process helps
you learn to take ownership and develop
self responsibility. Coaching is individualized and
action-focused, so you
can build productive habits and systems that lead to
a fulfilling life.
ADD coaching also:
- Provides you
with support and understanding from an experienced coach
who is knowledgeable about ADD.
- Helps you identify your strengths,
the parts of ADD that actually work well for you.
- Provides understanding about how
ADD creates personal challenges for you and what you can do about
- Nurtures personal awareness and
responsibility, and encourages you
to look for options that lead to progress and success.
you into actions to rebuild self-esteem, self-awareness,
- Focuses on your executive
functioning skills (i.e., planning, prioritizing, and analyzing)
to create customized systems that will improve the client's
consistency and effectiveness.
- Offers a safe environment for you to
let go of your isolation
and helps you form a
nurturing connection with another person.
- Provides consistent accountability
and encourages the you to
move beyond thinking into appropriate action.
- Helps you learn
to advocate and speak out for you needs,
questions, and boundaries.
ADD coaching builds
hope by educating you about
ADD. It is instrumental in developing systems and strategies that you
can use in effectively managing your
own ADD challenges, which can dramatically improve the quality
of your life.
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